Here’s what I’ve realized, and what I told Shana earlier:
When we were small, we were told we could have it all. And then at some point we came to believe that we couldn’t. Or someone told us that we couldn’t. Or we tried to have it all and it was too hard.
The fallacy doesn’t lie in believing that we can have it all. The fallacy lies in believing that having it all will be easy. Or that it is without opportunity costs. Or that having it all means the same thing for everyone.